Let’s Talk about Perinatal Mental Health

Let's Talk about Perinatal Health

When I was pregnant with Button I was asked if I would take part in a local survey about mental health in pregnancy and as a new mum (perinatal). It’s sad to an extent they didn’t want to ask about new dad’s or dad to be’s mental health as it can be a stressful time for them too; especially when we still have the old “men must take care of their partners” and “men shouldn’t show their feelings” which I don’t agree with and won’t be teaching my son. I was picked to have an interview after they had collated all of the survey data, Button was less than a week old but I decided to participate.  Read more

What is the Hype around Self Care – Time to Talk Tuesdays

what is the hype around self care? time to talk tuesdays

Is the term “self care” just another empty buzz word or is it really something we should start to look into more thoroughly? So if you read the last installment of “Time to Talk Tuesday” post about making your own happiness, positive perspective you will have seen I had ordered The Blurt Foundation’s founder and CEO’s book called “The Self Care Project” and I am not going to lie it has blown me away. I honestly felt better after reading it and felt like in time I will be able to make steps in the right direction. Read more

Make Your Own Happiness, Positive Perspective – Time to Talk Tuesdays

Make your own happiness - positive perspective - time to talk tuesdays

Don’t you hate people that sit there and say “just be happy” or “you make your own happiness” or the like? Sure you can make your own happiness but it is unfair to link that with depression or low mood. Creating your own happiness or being happy isn’t going to cure it! But can having a positive perspective help with your mood? Read more

Positive Strategies or Not? -Time to Talk Tuesdays

positive coping strategies or not - time to talk tuesdays

I thought I would share the types of strategies the mental health coordinator has tried to have me do, how they made me feel and what I have tried to do for myself. So far I am supposed to be having like a 1-2-1 talking therapy until the DBT starts in May; however even though my appointments were supposed to be doubled after I came out of hospital due to one reason or another I haven’t seen anyone since the beginning of the month. Read more

Social Anxiety – Time To Talk Tuesdays

social anxiety - time to talk tuesdays

Social anxiety is something that definitely for me goes hand in hand with being chronically sick, or at least I can’t put it down to anything else as I haven’t known any other way of life since becoming sick at the age of 10. Although I have noticed that after having both my children it became heightened. I would often describe myself as an introverted extrovert and I know that sounds pretty pretentious but I really believe it’s true. Read more

Being an Inpatient and being a Parent

being an inpatient and being a parent

Now my Little Lady doesn’t find it anything new, mummy going to see doctors and even being an inpatient in hospital. Even though she is definitely not a fan of me going in it has some perks for her – I always get her some crap from the hospital shop and she gets to “look after daddy” by staying in my bed. But she was nearly 2 by the time I started being admitted regularly so she had a bit of understanding, whereas Button doesn’t have any; he cries when he hears my voice on the phone and doesn’t understand why he can see me when I video call but I’m not actually there. This is the longest I have ever been away from him or them both together. Read more

Being Admitted and Mental Health – Time to Talk Tuesdays

hospital admissions and mental health

I find that when I am admitted into hospital I am fine mentally for 4 days or so then the paranoia sets in. I feel like staff are against me, the fact I’m mobile and independent makes people think I’m not sick, the fact I can tolerate pain well means when I say I have a pain score of 6 I get looks of really?? However this is something I am aware of and I can admit too whereas some may not want too. Read more

Writing a Crisis Care Plan – Time to Talk Tuesdays

Do you ever find it hard when the professionals want from you? Or what support do you think you need? That is my personal hell! How am I supposed to know what support I need? I just want help!! But I also find simple (or simple to those not directly affected by it) questions like “what are your early signs?”, “what helps?” often I think I have no idea when asked on the spot but on reflection I may think of something. So here are some prompts on writing/co-writing your crisis recovery plan. Read more