Returning to Work after Maternity Leave

returning to work after maternity leave

Returning to work after maternity leave can be quite stressful to some mums but for others as much as they love their children they can’t wait to get back to work and be “them” for a few hours rather than “mum”. I have gone back after maternity twice now and both times were very different. After Ra-Ra was born I went back to a job where I knew the staff, the job and it felt very much like my colleagues were family. This time after Button; I went into a whole new job where other than the basics of the job (once worked in care the basics are always the same) I didn’t know anyone, new paperwork and a new location. I feel very much like the outcast the typical new girl in the films of the 2000’s I grew up watching. Trying to join in with already established cliques. Read more

Let’s Talk about Perinatal Mental Health

Let's Talk about Perinatal Health

When I was pregnant with Button I was asked if I would take part in a local survey about mental health in pregnancy and as a new mum (perinatal). It’s sad to an extent they didn’t want to ask about new dad’s or dad to be’s mental health as it can be a stressful time for them too; especially when we still have the old “men must take care of their partners” and “men shouldn’t show their feelings” which I don’t agree with and won’t be teaching my son. I was picked to have an interview after they had collated all of the survey data, Button was less than a week old but I decided to participate.  Read more

What’s the Deal with Judging Mums?

what's the deal with judging mums

There are so many different reasons why mum’s become stressed, anxious and feel like they aren’t doing a good enough job. I have felt all of these in with both my children separately and both together. People pass judgement on mums (and dads let’s be honest) all the time, without caring how it will make the other person feel or without knowing what they have gone through to get to that point. This is a fairly long post for me and a bit ranty so here is your last warning to grab yourself a cuppa, maybe a biscuit and get ready for the long haul! Read more

Being an Inpatient and being a Parent

being an inpatient and being a parent

Now my Little Lady doesn’t find it anything new, mummy going to see doctors and even being an inpatient in hospital. Even though she is definitely not a fan of me going in it has some perks for her – I always get her some crap from the hospital shop and she gets to “look after daddy” by staying in my bed. But she was nearly 2 by the time I started being admitted regularly so she had a bit of understanding, whereas Button doesn’t have any; he cries when he hears my voice on the phone and doesn’t understand why he can see me when I video call but I’m not actually there. This is the longest I have ever been away from him or them both together. Read more

Telling A Child About Ostomies

telling your child about ostomies

Can be a hard subject to broach whether it is for yourself or the child. I recently have had a few parents message me and ask me a bazillion questions which is totally fine and exactly what I’m here for! I have personally been through what it is like telling or let’s be real here trying to tell a toddler what a stoma was and why mummy was having it. Read more

Toucan Boxes For Children Of Chronically Sick Parents

toucan boxes for children with chronically sick parents

As much as we all love our children sometimes we just don’t have the energy to play with them or do something educational. I know I have resorted to letting the tablet or TV sort of parent Ra-Ra and it really saddens me that even after my surgery I have had those days. But recently I have found out about Toucan boxes.. Read more

Human Is Beautiful…Perfect Is Boring

human is beautiful...perfect is boring

Like most young girls I dreamed of being a model when I grew up, but becoming chronically ill and being definitely awkward looking (not to mention steroid moon face) I soon realised that I wasn’t what society deemed as beautiful. Not that I was ugly really not in reality. Since meeting Jasmine back in 2016 I have wanted to model for her company but I was never going to be at the forefront of her mind when her brand exudes glamour and silver screen elegance – as I am a very proud punk rock princess! I however got to experience modelling for her recently and it didn’t matter about my tattoos as I got to be all decked out for Halloween! Read more